The more we over-give, the LESS we receive...
For women who feel drained, depleted, or disconnected from their vitality and magnetism, there’s a deeper conversation we need to have. It’s not just about being overworked or burned out—it's about the depletion of your yin, your feminine essence. This vital energy, which has powered queens, kings, and entire civilizations for millennia, isn’t restored through a simple vacation, a leave from work, or even extra rest.
Resting is not the same as building your capacity to receive.
Over-functioning and over-giving are survival mechanisms, often unconsciously used to keep ourselves safe. It’s the “If I keep giving, they’ll love me and stay” mentality—a distorted belief that has lived in the feminine collective for generations. It’s the root cause of many physical and emotional imbalances.
But here’s the truth: when you re-member that your power as a woman lies in your beingness, you start to see that your worth is not measured by how much you do for others. This is why I guide my clients not to pour from an empty or even a full cup. We are meant to give from our overflow. And in order to do that, you must first know how to receive.
Does this mean quitting your job and waiting for others to serve you? Absolutely not. When you’re living in alignment with your dharma—your soul’s true calling—your cup naturally refills. There’s a vast difference between giving your energy to people, places, or jobs that drain you and living from your purpose, where your energy flows abundantly.
Here are some subtle ways you may be over-giving without even realizing it:
Thinking about others constantly (this is common in co-dependent relationships—"Did he text back?", "I wonder if they're thinking of me"). Yes, even thinking about others is an energetic form of giving.
Saying yes out of obligation when your body is screaming no.
Providing emotional support just because you can, even when it’s not what you truly desire.
Overcommitting out of fear of disappointing others.
These patterns of over-giving don’t just deplete your vitality; they can also erode your sense of self. The more you give from a place of depletion, the more you lose touch with who you are and what you truly desire.
If you found yourself saying yes to most of the above, it’s time to make a shift.
Reclaiming your radiance and vitality begins with understanding that the more you over-give, the less you receive. When you shift into alignment and create space to receive, you start to truly embody the fullness of who you are.
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